Online dating not interested anymore
Your safety is paramount. We had a lot of physical chemistry, but obviously I didn't know him well enough to know if we were compatible otherwise.
I would text or email the first guy and ask to talk on the phone, and when a good time to do so would be example: I think he's a bit square, and not as ambitious as I'd like my partner to be. Use your knowledge of the person and your interactions to guide what you say.
July 7, 7: It's not ideal, and I think you can make the phone call, but you know yourself best. It is as if no one wants to put the effort into the relationship after a while.
Cancel the dinner because you don't want to have dinner with him.
If you are going to do it in person, do it at the beginning of dinner rather than the end. As an American something who is dating in the context of a major US city, I would feel no concern about your one-night-stand-plus-two-dates at all.
Under no circumstances allow yourself to be drawn into a dating not interested anymore of what he could have done differently or what qualities he lacks, not only because that's cruel but because it opens the door to argument. You didn't discuss exclusivity, but you have been going on dates and sleeping together. Yes, call the first guy and tell him you're not interested in seeing him for dinner.
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But the only way to fix the situation is to be straight forward with him now then let him move on. Don't make up an excuses with the first guy or try to avoid him Proceed as you wish with the new guy.
Then he asked to cook me dinner a couple of days later. The men who are especially driven in this way develop the need to escape routine life at all costs.
I figured I'd just keep avoiding him until he got the hint. I think safety concerns online dating is pretty cold and a call would be best, even if you just have to wince through his displeasure. I would also recommend in general that you take a step back from the social pressure to reciprocate everything that's thrown your way.